Turning 20 | Quarter Life Crises

I know turning 20 isn't exactly the most dreadful time, but it's a pretty big deal. 21 maybe the age you're officially an adult, but 20 is the age where you have to give up being a teenager. Not going to lie ever since i turned 19 i've been freaking out about this. There are so many articles about what you should do when you turn 20 and how you need to change.

I've called this the quarter life crises since when I'm 80 I probably won't be in the best state to be living life to the full....just saying. 

So I thought i'd share a few things I want to accomplish by giving up my teenager status. Knowing myself I probably won't follow them for long but it's worth a try!  

Stop Avoiding Confrontation: 

I am 100% that person who will walk away from any argument with a hundred things to say in my head. There's only so much of that you can do before you brain is filled with all the things you want to say to all the people who piss you off. It's hard to do this without feeling like a bitch but being fake nice to people you really can't stand or never confronting people who cut you deep will drive you crazy....trust me. 


Messy Drunk Ain't Cute 

Getting so drunk that you can't even remember what you did can be funny sometimes but the older you get the more you regret. Getting drunk is fun and i'm not going sober or anything just maybe cutting back on the nights where I burst out crying after one too many. 



Work For Your Dream

Being 20 is the start of your adult life and if you want to get to the top of that career ladder you have to start now. Take every opportunity you can and don't be afraid to ask help from the people around you, if they can be any benefit to you, most likely you'll be useful for them sometime too. 



Don't Take Things So Seriously: 

Say sorry if you know you've done something wrong, dust yourself off when you full down and learn to laugh things off once they're solved. Holding onto things will only drag you and the people around you down. 



Stop Sleeping At 3am: 

Being a night owl is difficult when you have jobs and university to go to early in the morning. I've always hated sleep ever since I was a kid, I like being in bed and being comfy but it's that last little eye closing that is the most difficult. My mind is at it's most creative point when a blanket of darkness is over me, maybe if I just sleep at 1am instead of 3.... 


Don't Let Things "Ruin" You: 

Bad things happen to everyone, just most people won't talk or post about it so you may never know. Unlike when you're a teen and one bad breakup or falling out with your friends can result in weeks of crying, you can't afford to waste all that time anymore you've got dishes to wash and beds to make! 


Stand By What You Like:

If you wanna stay up all night watching Disney films or kiss your cat on the lips then do it. Whatever age you are who cares what's "normal" no ones normal and if they seem like they are they're probably just boring. 


Don't Give In To Pressure: 

If you don't want to go on a night out don't, and lastly don't do drugs just because everyone around you is. I was going to elaborate more on it but there's no need, if you want to then that's fine and if you don't want to then that's also fine. 

So here's to hopefully another 20 years of love, laughing and lots of weirdness!  

Happy Birthday Me xx

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BLOG!

It's my birthday it's my birthday I'm gonna party like its my birthday! I've officially had this blog for a year and I'm so pleased with what it's become. It's a little place that I have on the internet where I can chat to invisible people and hopefully make them happy for the time they read a post. I've learnt a lot about myself from doing this. Since the summer every time I return home to HK people have come up to me and mentioned my blog in some way, it honestly makes my day! It's something I love and if other people love it too then that's amazing :) 

Here are a few of my favourite posts so far! 

 Considering that the date is New Years Eve, you can probably tell that this blog was my New Years resolution. I have never actually gone through with one of my resolutions before, normally by the end of January I just can't be bothered. But this year has inspired me to make more resolutions which I will try my hardest to follow. I used to create unrealistic or unhealthy goals which I wouldn't even start, my advice is the create resolutions that you want to do. Don't say you're going to stop drinking coffee when you can't function first thing in the morning without it. Make it doable!

Unpopular opinion alert: I don't like New Years Eve. I say it all year but as soon as it gets past Christmas I make it another day to look forward to because you might as well be festive for as long as you can! But I'm always disappointed, you're pressured to get drunk and party your way into the New Year. When I drink there's a 70% chance I will cry and have a mental breakdown just because I'm THAT drunk girl. Thats a very bad way to start a nice new clean fresh year, and to make it worse you wake up puking everywhere the next day.... not a very inspiring start to the year. So I just want you guys to know you don't have to pressure yourself to have the best night ever and start the new year off great.

My resolution this year is to be happy with myself. It's so hard not to overthink your life, there's so much pressured to have fun, get a good job, experience the world. Just focus on you. I get my happiness from people around me, this year I'm focusing on getting my happiness from me. 

Thank you for a years worth of support and I hope next year brings you lots of happiness xxxxx