Maintaining Your Inner Zen

I don't know about you, but I'm quite an energetic, overemotional, stressful person on the inside which is quite unhealthy because, well you're with yourself constantly and need to make sure your mind has some time to relax. 

Little things like how many likes your selfie got or whether you embarrassed yourself that one time 3 years ago, they are such unimportant thoughts but yet they always hover around you while your trying to relax or sleep. Unless your part of the lucky few who can turn off their thoughts at night, then you can spend hours getting lost in all these silly memories. 

Now I'm not writing this to tell you how to "switch it off" if that is even possible, because if I knew trust me they would be off permanently! But since I'm at the point in my life where i've stopped and thought "wtf am I doing with my life?"  I had to find some ways to calm myself before I internally combusted. 

Music 
I don't mean throw on some Tyler Swift and dance around your room, but if that makes you feel better then why not? I mean some calming mixes that help you concentrate when you're studying. Music is a very personal preference though so I won't expect you all to like this, but I find this mix really helps to calm me down. https://www.youtube.com/watchv=ysx9BVYlUY4&list=LMgYo6nGCPuYn-kYlZWQxmJw

Light Candles
Theres just something about watching the flickering of fire thats really soothing to your mind, so well as an amazing smells and the conscious idea of warmth... just perfect.

Avoid Getting Angry/Frustrated 
This is honestly the most difficult one but if you're pissed off about something just sit down and calmly think about it because if you get angry it'll just fuel your inner fire, which you may regret later. 

Have A Happy Place
I don't want to sound like I'm crazy here, but you know when everything just seems to be getting way to overwhelming and you feel out of control. Distancing your mind from all that negativity and tension really makes you think a lot clearer. Although don't think about anything sad because then you'll cry and have a mental breakdown making you even more overwhelmed. 

No Toxic Thoughts
This is the second hardest one to do, we all know everyone can't resist a good bitchathon, but after a very long time i've realised what you say about others really does reflect on how you're feeling deep down in the inner core of your mind. And also you have the constant fear that you're gonna get caught out. 

Breath To The Rhythm of the Ocean
Just reading that title makes me cringe like I'm some wanna be guru. But seriously it works, the slow rhythm makes your heart rate slow down while your mind is distracted with thoughts of blue waves crashing down, you honestly just pass out within 3 minuets. 

I hope this kinda helps if you tend to be a little bit of an overthinking like myself xx 

Summer Self Confidence

Summer is finally here, the season we've been waiting for all year, those amazing summer sales have started, the days are longer  and your dream of getting a gorgeous glowing tan might come true. But with the warm weather comes a lack of clothing and while some people are embracing the crop tops and short shorts, I'm feeling more insecure than ever. "Will my thighs stick together in these shorts?" "Does this skirt hide all my wobbly bits? these questions are constantly on my mind. 

Now I don't consider myself as big, I'm a size 8-10 so people naturally assume I'm confident about my body. But I'm far from it, I completely despise my legs due to a lot of bullying while I was growing up. But this summer I'm putting a stop to my worries and insecurities and I want you to do the same as well! Wether you hide behind your jeans or makeup, it's time to fall in love with your appearance. 

By changing your mindset when you look in the mirror, you can build up a positive wall and protect yourself. Change those negative thoughts of "My thighs are too big" to "Society says I need a thigh gap, but how can you have a great bum without strong thighs." Our bodies are built the way they are for a reason, so whatever size you are, if you feel good then you can look twice as good. 

Although changing my mindset hasn't had an immediate effect as I'm still afraid of short shorts, I have being wearing my dresses and skirts without tights and I couldn't feel prouder of myself. These baby steps help you stay confident and comfortable in your own skin for life rather then feeling confident straight away and having one comment or bad outfit bring you down. 

Get your legs out this summer and embrace your insecurities! xx