The Dating Diaries | My Worst First Dates

First dates are a funny thing, some people love them and some people hate them. I for one am quite a fan of them just becuase you never know what's going to happen. That doesn't mean to say all my first dates have gone great...some of them I just wish I stayed at home and missed.

Over the Easter holiday when I was back home, my mum thought it would be a fun activity to remind me of some of my dating history from wayy back in my awkward mid-teenage years. 

Im not gonna name any names because I'm #classy but I since i've already made a fool of myself in front of these people, why not tell the world? 

Traumatised by Tangled

One of my first ever dates I went on was when I was about 14. For some reason I really wanted to go on a date with this guy (current me can't see what the fuss was about) I pestered him for weeks until he finally gave in and we went to the movies. The only movie that was being shown at that time was Tangled....first hurdle.  No snacks were brought and the conversion was so uncomfortable I wanted to hide under the cinema chair. But for some reason I was trying to force this to happen even though it totally felt like he was dragged here by his mum. I clearly remember cracking up at this one part in the movie and heard him mutter under his breath "childish". At the end of the date we ended up on the same train home.... extra awkward, when I could finally get off and let all that awkwardness go, I had time to reflect and thought it would be a nice thing to text him a "thanks for the date" message. Which never received a reply. 

Moral of the story: Don't force someone to go on a date with you because it will just be an awkward mess. 

Liquid Courage 

Im going to give you a little background on this guy and why I was so nervous in the first place. I'd been chatting for this guy on and off for quite a while, he was a few years older and for 15 year old Nicole that was "so cool". He was the king of playing hard to get, one day I would be swooning and the next day he was ignoring me. So when he finally asked me out for drinks I was so excited but even more nervous. My friend thought we should get in a pre date sheesha and some drinks of our own so i'd be less stressed. I ended up having 4 tequila shots... (remember i was so nervous so I didn't exactly eat before) When I finally met up with the guy I was in the tipsy stage but soon after he brought me a vodka mixer, BOOM the drunk mess hit. Lets just say the last thing I remember is getting put into a taxi and seeing him looking rather pissed off. 

Moral of the story: Sometimes it's okay to be nervous just hold back on the alcohol if you actually want to remember your date. 


Period Problems

This story is a little gross for all you out there that can't handle period talk. So I'd arranged this date with a guy after school and as he was coming from quite far away I pretty much had to leave straight after school finished to get there on time. As every girl does, I was in the toilet with my friend checking myself out when I had the horror of noticing that i'd just got my period....and hard. The worst part was that our uniform had a beige skort, which pretty obviously showed everything. It was too late to cancel and I was stressing out pretty hardcore so my friend (shout out to you Jaya) quickly suggested that we swap skorts so that I wouldn't have to worry about all the mess and she'd just wash mine for me at home. I mean if thats not a best friend thing to do then I don't know what is. The date went pretty good and after seeing him another time I found out he had a girlfriend..... 

Moral of the story: If something horrific happens before a date, take it as a warning sign. 

At the time these were some scarring memories, but now I think they are hilarious. What was your worst date? xx  

Sunday Thoughts | How To Not Screw Up Your Life

Recently a lot of questions about the future seem to keep cropping up on me, what do you want to do? Where do you want to live? How are you going to get a job? It's honestly terrifying. Not because I don't think great things are going to happen, but simply due to the fear of the unknown. I've decided to write a few tips that I think prevent me from going into a spiral of decay. 


Don't Rush

Apparently peer pressure is at it's peak during high school but I call bullshit. Pressure about the future can be a lot worse. Thinking of taking a gap year? "Oh they're not taking this seriously" Not being able to find a job? "They aren't trying hard enough" and so on. It may seem like you're being rushed but honestly take some time to really think about what you want to do and who you want to be, nothing is worse then waking up to the realisation that you're unhappy with who you've become.


Be Confident Not Egotistic

By all means embrace your best assets and the things that make you individual but don't get cocky about it. Confidence shows you know what you're doing, you enjoy what you're doing and people will see that. But being egotistic and bringing people around you down won't make you any better at what you do. 


Dream Big

Having a big dream that you strive towards gives you something to wake up for, something to try your best for. Fair enough you may never become the multimillionaire bachelorette you dream of but you should damn well try. Average dreams get average results.


Forgive Yourself / Respect Your Choices

For me personally this is such an important mindset to have. Everyone does silly things and you may look back and think, "what the hell was I thinking"? But you have to respect that you wanted to do that at the time so whatever the outcome be confident with your choice.  You can't rely on other people to understand you or forgive you but if you can rely on yourself life becomes a lot easier.


Don't Compare Yourself To Others

I get compared to so much by other people that if I did it myself I'd probably go a little crazy. It's so easy to look at someone's life and think, "well they've got their shit together" but that's not always the case, remember that we only post what we want other people to see on social media. 


Choose Your Friends Wisely 

It's so easy to get caught up in social groups and tell people all about your goals and ambitions. But not everyone will be supportive. A handful of people who love and care about you is worth much more then an roomful of people who mock you. 

I'm thinking about making "Sunday Thoughts" a frequent thing where I just write about what's on my mind at that time. Let me know what you think? xx