The Dating Diaries | Are Cities Like Dating Buffets?

As you all know there are two things that I love to talk about,food and dating AKA bad dating stories. Well I have a theory for you today that involves a bit of over indulging in some bad food. 

I'm pretty sure you are well aware of what a buffet is, but if you've been living in a hole most of your life here's a summary: They are a place where you can eat as much food as you like in a certain period of time and there is usually a huge selection of different types and cuisine's. But the catch is that it's more about quantity than quality. So you stuff yourself on everything there is to offer because, well you paid for it..

Since being back In Hong Kong for exactly 8 months, i've been thinking about how dating in such a condensed city can be so difficult. Here is why I believe it's similar to a buffet: 

• There is a huge variety, all different nationalities and styles. 

• No one wants to commit, why choose thing when you can pile your plate high? 

• The quality is lacking, so you make do with what's in front of you.

• Since everyone is invited to this buffet, there's always gonna be something/someone else. 

• You never know what course you are, are you a main dish or just a side?  

• It's easy to overindulge and find yourself in a bit of trouble later. 

Maybe it's time for a new restaurant to come to town 

xx

Boys To Avoid | The Dating Diaries

Dating can be a little bit like conducting a science experiment. You put two chemicals (or people) together usually at a random pairing and either it blows up or nothing really happens. 

You all know by now I love sharing my personal life with you, and you seem to love it too! so from my own personal dating diary I'll guide you through the types of guys to avoid.

(As much as I would LOVE to name and shame, I've called them by their nicknames instead cuz i'm classy like that) 

Mr Can't Commit

You'll go on dates, call and text all the time and when you think it's all sunshine and roses, it comes crashing down just as quickly as it started. They'll say something like "my last relationship was so bad" or "it's just really not the right time" but in all honestly their just keeping their options open and so should you.


Mr Controlling

You're going out again? What time will you be back? Who are you going with? The constant accusing and nagging from this one will have you wanting to tear your eyes out or theirs. It may seem like he's being cute worrying about you, but you'll get tired of it verrry quickly.

Mr Jock 

This guy spends more time, money and everything else he has to offer in the gym. At first it's hot, but when all he can talk about is the gym it can get very boring. If you have to listen to him going on about protein shakes one more time you might just put him in that nutrabullet. 


Mr Moody 

There's always something mysteriously attractive about quiet, moody guys. It triggers your emotions and makes you want to fix them. But the more you try to meddle, the more you'll get punished for it. Before you know it they've sucked you into that blackhole of moodiness with them. 


Mr Fake 

This guy wins you over almost straight away with his happy and charming energy. But there's just something not quite right and you can't seem to get to the bottom of it. After spending a sufficient amount of time with them you'll come to realise there is nothing genuine about them and you've pretty much been dating a ghost.  

Mr Lazy  

It's all fine chilling out once in a while but it'll turn stale very quickly and when it gets to the point where you have to drag them to come out and do something other then sit at home.

 Unlucky for me I've had to deal with some of these lovelyyy humans, but hopefully you don't have to! xx 

The Dating Diaries | My Worst First Dates

First dates are a funny thing, some people love them and some people hate them. I for one am quite a fan of them just becuase you never know what's going to happen. That doesn't mean to say all my first dates have gone great...some of them I just wish I stayed at home and missed.

Over the Easter holiday when I was back home, my mum thought it would be a fun activity to remind me of some of my dating history from wayy back in my awkward mid-teenage years. 

Im not gonna name any names because I'm #classy but I since i've already made a fool of myself in front of these people, why not tell the world? 

Traumatised by Tangled

One of my first ever dates I went on was when I was about 14. For some reason I really wanted to go on a date with this guy (current me can't see what the fuss was about) I pestered him for weeks until he finally gave in and we went to the movies. The only movie that was being shown at that time was Tangled....first hurdle.  No snacks were brought and the conversion was so uncomfortable I wanted to hide under the cinema chair. But for some reason I was trying to force this to happen even though it totally felt like he was dragged here by his mum. I clearly remember cracking up at this one part in the movie and heard him mutter under his breath "childish". At the end of the date we ended up on the same train home.... extra awkward, when I could finally get off and let all that awkwardness go, I had time to reflect and thought it would be a nice thing to text him a "thanks for the date" message. Which never received a reply. 

Moral of the story: Don't force someone to go on a date with you because it will just be an awkward mess. 

Liquid Courage 

Im going to give you a little background on this guy and why I was so nervous in the first place. I'd been chatting for this guy on and off for quite a while, he was a few years older and for 15 year old Nicole that was "so cool". He was the king of playing hard to get, one day I would be swooning and the next day he was ignoring me. So when he finally asked me out for drinks I was so excited but even more nervous. My friend thought we should get in a pre date sheesha and some drinks of our own so i'd be less stressed. I ended up having 4 tequila shots... (remember i was so nervous so I didn't exactly eat before) When I finally met up with the guy I was in the tipsy stage but soon after he brought me a vodka mixer, BOOM the drunk mess hit. Lets just say the last thing I remember is getting put into a taxi and seeing him looking rather pissed off. 

Moral of the story: Sometimes it's okay to be nervous just hold back on the alcohol if you actually want to remember your date. 


Period Problems

This story is a little gross for all you out there that can't handle period talk. So I'd arranged this date with a guy after school and as he was coming from quite far away I pretty much had to leave straight after school finished to get there on time. As every girl does, I was in the toilet with my friend checking myself out when I had the horror of noticing that i'd just got my period....and hard. The worst part was that our uniform had a beige skort, which pretty obviously showed everything. It was too late to cancel and I was stressing out pretty hardcore so my friend (shout out to you Jaya) quickly suggested that we swap skorts so that I wouldn't have to worry about all the mess and she'd just wash mine for me at home. I mean if thats not a best friend thing to do then I don't know what is. The date went pretty good and after seeing him another time I found out he had a girlfriend..... 

Moral of the story: If something horrific happens before a date, take it as a warning sign. 

At the time these were some scarring memories, but now I think they are hilarious. What was your worst date? xx