Sunday Thoughts | How To Not Screw Up Your Life

Recently a lot of questions about the future seem to keep cropping up on me, what do you want to do? Where do you want to live? How are you going to get a job? It's honestly terrifying. Not because I don't think great things are going to happen, but simply due to the fear of the unknown. I've decided to write a few tips that I think prevent me from going into a spiral of decay. 


Don't Rush

Apparently peer pressure is at it's peak during high school but I call bullshit. Pressure about the future can be a lot worse. Thinking of taking a gap year? "Oh they're not taking this seriously" Not being able to find a job? "They aren't trying hard enough" and so on. It may seem like you're being rushed but honestly take some time to really think about what you want to do and who you want to be, nothing is worse then waking up to the realisation that you're unhappy with who you've become.


Be Confident Not Egotistic

By all means embrace your best assets and the things that make you individual but don't get cocky about it. Confidence shows you know what you're doing, you enjoy what you're doing and people will see that. But being egotistic and bringing people around you down won't make you any better at what you do. 


Dream Big

Having a big dream that you strive towards gives you something to wake up for, something to try your best for. Fair enough you may never become the multimillionaire bachelorette you dream of but you should damn well try. Average dreams get average results.


Forgive Yourself / Respect Your Choices

For me personally this is such an important mindset to have. Everyone does silly things and you may look back and think, "what the hell was I thinking"? But you have to respect that you wanted to do that at the time so whatever the outcome be confident with your choice.  You can't rely on other people to understand you or forgive you but if you can rely on yourself life becomes a lot easier.


Don't Compare Yourself To Others

I get compared to so much by other people that if I did it myself I'd probably go a little crazy. It's so easy to look at someone's life and think, "well they've got their shit together" but that's not always the case, remember that we only post what we want other people to see on social media. 


Choose Your Friends Wisely 

It's so easy to get caught up in social groups and tell people all about your goals and ambitions. But not everyone will be supportive. A handful of people who love and care about you is worth much more then an roomful of people who mock you. 

I'm thinking about making "Sunday Thoughts" a frequent thing where I just write about what's on my mind at that time. Let me know what you think? xx 

Problems Only People Who Talk Too Much Will Understand

Anyone who's mouth has the tendency to run away with them will understand the problems and constant insecurity you feel after conversations. Especially when you're a little over excited or nervous and you just talk and talk and talk. As a self diagnosed talksalot i've decided to write a few problems and positive points us talkative people face.

People think you're butting in on purpose

Yes we are dominating the conversation, yes we may not take a breath   or you to reply. But no we don't do it on purpose. If we get this excited or nervous to talk to you take it as a complement instead of a crime. 

Overthinking everything you say

At that time we literally just say what ever comes into our head and fits around the topic that's being talked about. It's only when we are alone and start thinking about what we actually said that we cringe the hell out.


Hand gestures get a little to extreme

Especially when alcohol is involved be warned there may be a few knocked over glasses and in extreme cases of a very crazy story, maybe some smashed ones too.


Saying things you're not supposed to say

Unless we're told specifically not to tell anyone like a surprise or a secret we will come out with anything and everything if the, that story about the time your were drunk and completely embarrassed yourself...yeah that may come up. Sorry in advance.


Letting people know way too much info about you

We keep other peoples personal life issues deep under wraps but when it comes to our own we may admit to things at the time and later get pissed off because we didn't want anyone to know. We also go super OTT and  "too much info" about details in our stories.


Dreaming of being mysterious

We always wanna be that mysterious person who no one really knows about and when they say something everyones shocked, but we'll never experience that because everyone pretty much knows everything about us.


When you're quiet everyone asks whats wrong

While many people can just have a quite day which no one really notices, we get called out on it straight away because is so far from how we usually are. 


Although talking too much has it's issues, there are some upsides too this trait which you might not realise because it comes so natural for you. 

Always having something to say 

First dates = no problem,  Job Interviews= what a breeze, Speaking to groups of people = easy peasy. We just get on with whatever it is we have to do, we are really good at making things up on the spot too. 

Turning boring into fun

Whether we are in a lesson or just around a boring bunch of people we can easily turn a serious conversation into a laugh. 

So whether you think you're a self diagnosed talksalot or know someone who is, don't take it personally xx